千金難買早知道，所有的深刻體驗都不是來自學習，而是教訓
這並不表示學習無用，純粹人性使然，放大了教訓的感受權重，例如：
1.損失趨避：虧損造成的痛苦，更甚於獲利的歡樂
2.行為準則：先規避苦痛，再講究享樂
公德心議題屢次浮上媒體版面，論戰此起彼落，奪理之餘也失了當
若講道理有用，還需要法律/執法人員，或監督/矯正機關嗎!?
「找出讓自己困擾的源頭，以激烈的方式令其終止不當的行為，就是必要之惡」
以下就常見的大樓住居爭議，列舉兩例探討：
1.噪音：
可能來源為機械、行為、寵物等
首先，你必須先檢討是否自身神經過於敏感
若否，洽詢周遭其他住戶是否有同樣的感受
若是，判定噪音困擾為真，可執行排除程序
理論基礎：勸說與警告通常無法讓對方同理自己的痛苦，更可能導致誤解或對立
較佳做法：以同樣或類似的音頻回敬，或批次舉報/警局立案，目的在於讓對方意識到不適/痛苦，進而主動改善(變)行為
2.佔位：
主要是停車格遭臨停，造成所有權方不便
佔位者的心態大多是暫時、非長期使用，對方應當包容，所以留下(或未留)聯繫方式即離去
對所有權方而言，任何妨害權力行使的阻礙都不該存在，除非能立即排除
換句話說，佔位者必須在現場/鄰近應處，才符合臨時、可理解要件
凡未能即刻排除的人為阻滯，建議參考以下做法：
以「無權佔有」立案訴諸法律，邀請行為人走完司法程序，體驗貪圖方便帶來的不便，後將結果(含照片)公告周知，即可藉言傳達成警示效果
最可能的結果：行為人選擇和解，你可要求其坦承犯行切結，並公告警示
華人以和為貴，上述兩例基於人性的做法其實有違慣俗，雖有效卻不討喜
不論是恐懼對方報復、鄰里負評，或自身懦弱，做不到就磨鍊心性吧，當個與世無爭的好人，像某教義講述的：有人打你的右臉，連左臉也轉過來由他打！
然而，這樣的你真的快樂嗎？任人壓榨，還滿口感恩！
聰明是種天賦，善良是個選擇
欺善怕惡、隱惡揚善不是美德，只是縱容惡的存在，終有自食惡果的一天
理解人性，令自身強大，他人才會予以尊重，坐下來和你講道理(而非鬼扯)
Knowing in advance is priceless. All profound experiences don’t come from learning, but from lessons.
This doesn't mean learning is useless; it's simply human nature that amplifies the weight of lessons. For example:
1. Loss aversion: The pain of losses outweighs the joy of gains.
2. Code of Conduct: Avoid pain first, and then pursue pleasure.
The issue of public morality has repeatedly surfaced in the media, with debates raging, often both logical and inappropriate.
If reasoning were effective, would we still need laws, law enforcement, or supervisory/correctional agencies?
"Identifying the source of your distress and using drastic measures to end the inappropriate behavior is a necessary evil."
The following discusses two common residential disputes:
1. Noise:
Possible sources include machinery, behavior, pets, etc.
First, you must examine whether you are overly sensitive.
If not, ask other residents if they experience the same problem.
If so, the noise problem is real and you can implement a troubleshooting process.
Theoretical basis: Persuasion and warnings often fail to elicit empathy and are more likely to lead to misunderstandings or confrontation.
A better approach: Respond with the same or similar audio, or file a group reports or make cases to police. The goal is to make the other person aware of the discomfort/distress and proactively improve their behavior.
2. Parking Space Occupancy:
This primarily occurs when a parking space is temporarily occupied, causing inconvenience to the owner.
Parking space occupiers often use the space temporarily, not permanently, and think the owner should be tolerated. They often place their contact information (or not) and then leave.
For the owner, any obstruction to exercise their rights should not exist unless it can be immediately removed.
In other words, the occupier must be present on site or in the vicinity to meet the temporary and understandable requirements.
For any man-made obstructions that cannot be immediately removed, the following approach is recommended:
Filing a legal case for "unauthorized occupation" invites the perpetrator to complete the legal process and experiences the inconvenience of seeking convenience. Publicly announcing the results (including photos) can then serve as a warning.
Most likely outcome: The perpetrator chooses to settle. You can then request an admission of guilt and a written agreement, and issue a warning notice.
Chinese people value harmony. The two approaches mentioned above, based on human nature, actually go against common sense. While effective, they're unpopular.
It may be fear of retaliation, negative comments from neighbors, or your own cowardice. If you can't do it, cultivate your character and be a non-confrontational person. As a certain creed says: "If someone hits you on the right cheek, turn the other cheek to him as well!"
However, are you truly happy like this? Allowing others to exploit you, yet still claiming gratitude!
Intelligence is a gift, kindness is a choice.
Bullying the good and fearing the evil, concealing evil and promoting good, both are not virtues; they just encourage evil and will eventually reap the consequences.
Understanding human nature strengthens you, and others will respect and sit down with you for a reasonable discussion (rather than just bullshit). |
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