天文學的黑洞(black hole)是一種類星體，因自身極高的密度而產生極大的重力，致所有粒子與光等電磁輻射均無法逃逸
套用在人身上即負面情緒，同樣具有吞噬破壞的恐怖能力，迫使周遭一併捲入
有別於黑洞，人類的情感可以操控與疏導，但手段與技巧有高低之分：社工/教導員(低階)、心理/諮商師(中階)、企業導師/團隊教練(高階)，以下略以兩個場景說明：
1.美劇金融戰爭1-7季
故事涉及企業併購與監管法務角力，商戰、政爭均備，任何情節都不會有一方獨贏，看似佔有優勢，往往無以為繼，能力固然重要，決策品質才是貫穿事件的主軸
令人印象深刻的是企業諮商師，透過與談協助經理人擺脫投資困境，在她眼裡，彷彿每個人都有個按鈕，啟動/重置後就會有嶄新的面貌
2.我們與惡的距離2
儘管社會、家庭、個人存在著教育、醫病、法福等分歧，能夠登上檯面的始終善大於惡，卻只是所有態樣的冰山一角，無法也不可能代表任何一方
以初期的縱火犯為例，最後因父親的改觀而出現轉變契機，開放的結局卻沒人能保證(或有歷證可稽)對社會的正向效益，雖不切實際，但為了收視率也只能訴諸情懷，就解決問題層面，觀眾只看到「更多無解的問題」
人的情感有個獨特的觸發機制，隨著年齡/閱歷增長，愈顯隱匿
家庭/學校的力量，對人類的成長與探索十分關鍵，也就是說，誤入歧途肯定是兩者失衡，且互相對立
論成效，企業永遠比社福高端，原因無它：
「在利益的基礎上講究公平正義，先賺飽再講感受」
轉換成學生版本：
「在能力範圍內爭取較高成績、遵守校規、適應團隊作息，再談開心的校園生活」
當情感陷入黑洞，別天真以為尋常的SOP(接住他、包容他、陪伴他)有用，除非你能預判傷害程度，並對其負完全責任
若否，就該落實法的剛正，以矯治之力整肅頑行
早些陪伴，自易包容，何需接住
順序搞反，必付出更高的代價承擔後果，對象可能是自己、受害者，及其家庭、社會
這一點，並非成年就理應知曉，自以為是罷了
千言萬語，當責兩字
物種存續的關鍵不在於體型或智力優劣，而取決適應變化的能力
只要認清應負責的人事物，還有執行的自我，足以解決95%以上的問題
然而，這有違人性推諉的傾向，所以世界大同始終是海市蜃樓，看得到卻不存在
換個角度，若能善用正確解讀事件的能力，減低情緒干擾，按邏輯實施，想必成果斐然
成事在己，天助自助
像個教練指導自己前行，與優秀的人合作；冀望他人憐憫即是處於被動，交付成為「更好」的權利
In astronomy, a black hole is a quasar that generates a huge gravity due to its extremely high density, so that all particles and electromagnetic radiation such as light cannot escape.
When applied to humans, it is negative emotions, which also have the terrifying ability to devour and destroy, forcing the surroundings to be involved.
Unlike black holes, human emotions can be manipulated and channeled, but the methods and techniques vary in level: social workers/educators (low-level), psychologists/counselors (mid-level), and corporate mentors/team coaches (high-level). The following two scenarios are briefly used to illustrate:
1. American TV series Financial Wars Seasons 1-7.
The story involves corporate mergers and acquisitions and regulatory legal struggles, as well as business and political competitions. No one side will win alone in any plot. It seems that one has an advantage, but it is often unsustainable. Although ability is important, the quality of decision-making is the main axis throughout the event.
What is impressive is the corporate consultant, who helps managers get rid of investment difficulties through discussions. In her eyes, it seems that everyone has a button, and after starting/resetting, they will have a brand new look.
2. The distance between us and evil 2.
Although there are differences in education, medical treatment, law and welfare among society, family and individuals, the good that can be put on the stage is always greater than the evil, but it is only the tip of the iceberg of all forms and can’t/ won’t represent any party.
Take the arsonist in the early stage as an example. In the end, there is an opportunity for change because of his father's change of mind. However, no one can guarantee (or have historical evidence) the positive benefits of the open ending to the society. Although it is unrealistic, it can only appeal to emotions for the sake of ratings. In terms of solving problems, the audience only sees "more unsolvable problems".
Human emotions have a unique trigger mechanism, which becomes more hidden as age/experience increases.
The power of family/school is crucial to human growth and exploration. In other words, going astray is definitely an imbalance between the two, and they are mutually opposed.
In terms of effectiveness, enterprises are always higher than social welfare, and the reason is simple:
"Fairness and justice are emphasized on the basis of interests, and people should make money first and then talk about feelings."
Translated into the student version:
"Strive for higher grades within the scope of ability, abide by school rules, adapt to the team's operation, and then concern about a happy campus life".
When emotions fall into a black hole, don't be naive to think that the usual SOP (catch, tolerate, accompany them) is useful, unless you can predict the extent of the harm and take full responsibility for it.
If not, society should implement the justice of the law and rectify the stubborn behavior with the power of correction.
Accompany earlier, it will be easier to tolerate, and no need to catch them?
If the order is wrong, someone will have to pay a higher price to bear the consequences, which may be you, the victim, families, and society.
This is not something people should know as an adult; they just think they are right.
It’s "responsibility" that represents thousand words.
The key to the survival of species does not lie in size or intelligence, but in the ability to adapt to change.
As long as you recognize the people and things that are responsible, and ego who executes, you can solve more than 95% of the problems.
However, this goes against the human tendency to shirk responsibility, so world peace is always a mirage, visible but not existing.
From another perspective, if you can make good use of the ability to correctly interpret events, reduce emotional interference, and implement according to logic, you will surely achieve remarkable results.
Success depends on you, and God helps people who help themselves.
Be a coach to guide youself forward, cooperate with excellent people; expecting others to pity is to be passive, and give up the right to become "excellent".
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